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The Difference Reading Makes

A dad reads with his son - NHS imagesReading aloud is one of the best ways fathers can bond with their children. On World Book Day, DOUGLAS GUEST of Fathers Network Scotland shares how he overcame dyslexia to start his reading journey with his young sons. 

Stories fire the imagination and inspire creativity, but being dyslexic, I found reading at school – and particularly reading aloud – very challenging. I fell in love with reading through comics like 2000AD and Marvel superheroes.

It was only when I was given a Star Wars chapter book of The Empire Strikes Backthat I started to find reading interesting in the form we traditionally know it. It was the beginning of a lifelong passion.

My fear of reading aloud persisted, however, so in order to overcome it, I started reading simple picture books to my own boys when they were very young. I began with the Bookbug mainstay HUG by Jez Alborough and other ones I picked up in the library.

Then, as my confidence grew, I was ready for wizards, and ended up reading the whole Harry Potter series to my six-year-old over three years. I’m enjoying Famous Five books that I couldn’t get into the first time round.

ROOM FOR EMOTION

Reading is a fertile learning ground for us all. When tears emerged reading David Walliams’ Gangsta Granny, we were able to talk about our grief around the death of the real-life Nana in our family. And there was joy and laughter in discovering Roald Dahl books I never knew existed.

Given my shaky start in reading, who would have predicted that story time would become one of the most treasured parts of being a dad?

Douglas and two of his sonsThat’s why I’m so passionate about Year of the Dad, which aims to celebrate the difference a great dad can make – and change outdated gender stereotypes to reflect the millions of dads out there quietly nurturing their children. 

I'm also passionate about World Book Day - a celebration of authors, illustrators, books and most importantly reading, designated by UNESCO as a worldwide celebration of books and reading, and marked in over 100 countries all over the world.

And when you combine dads and books, you have a winning combination - because reading to our children is top quality time, and that quality time is growing as dads deepen our nurturing relationship to our children in all sorts of ways.

In the 1970’s, dads spent 15 minutes a day looking after their children during the week; today it's three hours (O’Brien 2005). That’s good news for everybody, because research overwhelmingly shows that children, families and society as a whole benefit from the positive involvement of fathers.

THE DAD EFFECT

We call it the Dad Effect: kids in Scotland who spend time with a Father Figure enjoy better life chances across:

  • educational attainment
  • health especially increasing mental health
  • confidence in raising their own kids
  • ability to form healthy relationships
  • employability
  • criminality (Engaging Fathers DfES (2004))

That’s why, throughout 2016 and beyond, Year of the Dad is issuing a rallying call to services and employers to support dads, embrace family-friendly, inclusive practice and reflect the importance of fathers in child development.

Time off in the early years is particularly valuable – and influences reading. An Economist article The Dad Dividend quoted OECD findings that dads in Britain who took time off at birth were almost a third more likely to read books with their toddlers than those who didn’t.

And a good start ripples right through a child’s life. A Norwegian study found that the children of fathers who took paternity leave were more likely to flourish at secondary school. (Indeed, another study showed Mum’s career earnings increased by 7% for every month their partner took off for child care!)

Dad with daughter - NHS imagesBONDING TIME

Dads across the country are already quietly living out this culture change, and others only need a little support to make changes they know will benefit their families.

I was lucky to do a preparation course withDads2b and was told by a health professional that if I bathed my babies it would provide bonding time for me and them. But from what I know now, I’d say reading to your child is every bit as important. Start early with picture books, move on with them and learn with them.

Now my boys and I always look forward to bedtime. Reading settles them and, funnily enough, me too. Indeed, I now believe so passionately in reading that I don’t know when to stop! My oldest is ten and I’m still reading to him. He reads the X-Men after we’ve finished Terry Pratchett and the light goes off twenty minutes later.

I love looking in on my sleeping children, dreaming of adventures in Neverland or Tatooine. It’s a huge privilege.

And I hope Year of the Dad, in collaboration with Scottish Book Trust and other literacy experts, will help bring the joy and privilege of reading to many other dads. On World Book Day, please join us in our celebration of dads and books!

Year of the Dad is organised by Fathers Network Scotland with support from the Scottish Government and many other organisations. Sign up for more info at:www.yearofthedad.org. More info on World Book Day can be found at www.worldbookday.com.

Looking for a book to get started with? This blog was originally published by the Scottish Book Trust, who have loads of suggestions on their book lists. Check them out!